You’ve heard the horror stories. Getting people to RSVP to your wedding invitations can be painful, but it doesn’t need to be! Here are some top tips:
Let your guests know exactly how to RSVP (e.g., “Please email your RSVP response to firstname.lastname@example.org”) and what your RSVP deadline is. If you are asking guests to RSVP on your website, include that text on your invitation: “Please RSVP on our website by March 1, 2016.”
Do you have some friends who like texts and others who prefer email? Thought so! Make it easy for your guests by giving them permission to RSVP in the manner that they prefer: online, email, and text messages are easiest for some, while mailing in an RSVP card might feel more comfortable for an older relative.
As the RSVPs start to roll in, make sure they are captured in one place so that you know both who has and who has not RSVP’d, as well what the responses are. If you’re not using a service like Glö to capture, organise, and tally your responses, start a guest list and RSVP spreadsheet. When you receive an RSVP, remember to add it to the spreadsheet right away so that nothing gets lost or forgotten.
4.FOLLOW UP (GENTLY).
Your guests are interesting, fun people—but this means they are busy too. Although you are thinking about your wedding day and night, they are not, and there is nothing wrong with that. Many of your guests will need a gentle reminder that the RSVP deadline is coming up. Email is a great way to reach out to them.
Don’t wait until three days before your catering numbers are due to start calling everyone in panic. Add some calendar invites to remind yourself when to send the first gentle reminder and when to start picking up the phone and dialing. Another sanity-saver is to build in some buffer for the unexpected yay or nay. Expect one or two guests to drop out at the last minute and one or two others to call at last minute and ask whether they can still come. If you are mentally and logistically prepared for this to happen, it will be less stressful when it does!
At the end of the day, the most important thing is not to panic. Collecting RSVPs requires a patient and methodical approach. You will get there!